Being an adult means fully bearing the cost, and the consequences, of our own choices.

Unfortunately, many parents today don’t let that happen …

While wondering why their “grown” kids are then such failures at life.

Tragically, I frequently see this as I go into our local jail, mostly among twenty-something white boys from middle class families.

Even more tragically, the parents and their churches often continued – out of guilt – to enable their immaturity even when they get out.

It never turns out well.

Do them a favor:

Let ’em fail!

Stop enabling them and let them begin to experience the full, unmitigated consequences of their choices …

Even if it means they go homeless and end up destitute until they begin making mature decisions and start to grow up.

Being allowed to become homeless and destitute will be a great shock to them – and they may initially stumbled badly – but in the long run I’ve always seen it turn out to be the best thing for them.

Tough love may be the best love you can give.