Being an adult means fully bearing the cost, and the consequences, of our own choices.

Unfortunately, many parents today don’t let that happen …

While wondering why their “grown” kids are then such failures at life.

Tragically, I frequently see this as I go into our local jail, mostly among twenty-something white boys from middle class families.

Even more tragically, the parents often continued – out of guilt – to enable their immaturity even when they get out.

It never turns out well.

Do them a favor:

Let ’em fail!

Stop enabling them and let them begin to experience the full, unmitigated consequences of their choices …

Even if it means they go homeless and end up destitute until they begin making mature decisions and start to grow up.

As a local church elder involved in discipleship, I’ve actually helped facilitate this with several young men over the years who came to Christ in the jail …

But still carried a sense of entitlement when they got out.

Although being allowed to become homeless and destitute was a great shock to them – and they would initially stumbled badly – in the long run it always turned out to be the best thing for them.

Some of those young men are now the most mature, strong and stable men in our fellowships.

Tough love may be the best love you can give.